It's a normal day on the job. You're hard at work trying not to watch the time. All of a sudden you notice that sexy co-worker and they kinda notice you back. You brush it of because you're at work. You continue with your work and the work day is over before you know it. You show up to work the next day, and you run into the same co-worker at the water cooler and you exchange glances and smile cordially. You make small talk and both of you walk away feeling like there could be something.Over the next couple of days and weeks, the two of you throw a few harmless flirts in each others direction which leads to lunch. And next thing you know, you end up meeting up for after work cocktails. Both of you feel the 'chemistry' but is it really chemistry or is it the adrenaline from doing something you shouldn't be doing?
We all know that sneaking around makes things feel much better than it would if it was a normal situation. It's going to work every 'acting' like you don't speak, like you haven't shared a kiss and or an intimate moment. Even sneaking off into a conference room, a stair case, or a back room will make something so wrong feel so right lol. But at the end of the day, can the relationship really work?
If the two of you found each other attractive, who's to say there isn't a side co-worker that want what you have. Better yet, who's to say, your secret co-worker fling isn't sleeping with someone else on the job? It's not like you can confront them about it, and if you do, everyone will know because your demeanor has switched up towards that person. What happens when the Holiday office party rolls around? We all know that's the only time the 'truth serum' is free of charge and hard at work lol. That will definitely be the wrong place to show up and show out lol.
Question:
Have you ever had a work fling? If so, how did it work out?
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I had a sort of fling once with a co worker. I never learn my lesson with these types of things. I'm very picky and it was very whack so I never wanted to do anything ever again and yet I still had to see him everyday :(
Hey Jas,
Tht's the bad thing about a work hook up. If it doesn't work out u still have to see them EVERY day lol.
I had a work fling and it was 'ok'. I eventually ended up leaving that job & went someplace else & it still worked out until he cheated lol. But tht's a different post lol.
I had a work fling before, and it was fun in the beginning but then it went horribly wrong. We were cool in the beginning no one knew what was going on and then too much feelings got attached and he started acting differently. Getting upset when I talked to other male co-workers. It got to the point where we were no longer speaking to each other and the Office Manager called me into the office and asked me what the problem between me and him was all about. He left the job and I shortly left after. We became friends after we left though.
I've had several co-worker hookups but the last one is the one that did me in. After the secret hook-ups we ended up in a relationship, lived together and raised his and my children together for 5 years only for him to leave me 5 days after OUR baby was born to go back to his ex. What you said about the adrenaline is right...it's so exciting at first all the sneakin' around all the intimacy that no one else knows about. The reality is the adrenaline wears off and although we had a good relationship I didn't see alot of the red flags b/c I was so caught up in the passion and excitement from when we first started out. I'll tell you this when that bus hit me I immediately looked back on it all and thought "was he always this spineless and I couldn't see it?" The answer is YES. Think before you leap!!!
I had one it was great for me bcuz all she wanted was some good meat ! U know one of those women who have men at home flaking wit the small pack lol well that's what she told me it popped off a couple of times but I ended it cuz it started to be a hassle
i cant imagine sleepin with someone that i work wit, cuz i'll get a feelin they'll tink were girlfriend and boyfriend n i cant deal wit seein that person all day at work then after work also nahh, ive had guys come up to me and approach me at job but i always think itll end badd and it would be very awkward you'll be seein that person everyday i dunno i cant do it
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Hey Baby_T,
Wow!!! Ur office mngr pulled u into the offie? Tht's crzy, I wouldn've felt like the whole office knew. Did u tell the mgr wht happened? lol
At least the two of you could be friends after the fact :)
Hey Anon#1,
Yeah, when you have the heat of the moment to fuel you on, things will 'seem' good. But then when u get down to the seriosness of the situation, u realize that it only worked b/c of the 'hype' behind it. And that is almost as blinding as love.
Hey Anon#2,
Lol..I mad she told u her man was small..lol. Good thing u ended it cause she sounds like the type to run her mouth...lol
Hey ClothesTheCurtains,
I never thought about it like that. When I was dealing w/ someone from work we ocassionally went to work from his house, had lunch, then went home together lol & then hung out on the wkends...lol.
But like I said, it was 'exciting' to do something no one knew about but us. ;)
BTW I'm glad u like it :)
Would I do it again, probably not.
my personal rule has always been "never ish where you eat" HOWEVER thats sometimes easier said than done - there's a guy at work who can seriously get it, and has been relentlessly trying too - trick is we're both in relationships and I'm also in a position of authority, so I'm faced with a quadruple no-no situation :( I want it but am not goin there cause I can just see it blowin up in my face
Hey Anon,
On this one I agree. I don't think you should take it there unless you plan on switching jobs/careers or if he plans on doing it also. It can work just as long as ya'll don't work together, but there's no excitement in that lol. Either way, I don't recommend it especially if both of ya'll r involved in separate relationships.
B4 u know it, you'll give ur boo an excuse as to why ur working late...and ppl have a 'habit' of poppin up to work to 'surprise' u. But when ur not there b/c ur w/ ur secret work fling and u try to play it off like u really was at work, tht's when ur boo will hit u with the "I stopped by ur job and u wasn't there"...and boy oh boy u don't want those issues lol.
I didn't tell her but I think she already knew. I made up some wack ass shit. LOL. But that was the first and last time I hooked up with a co-worker. Wait...where i work now I was told about the job by a "friend" that worked there and I got the job but whatever relationship we had ended before i started working there so I guess he doesn't count. lol
Hey Baby_T,
Yeah, I'm pretty sure she knew lol....lol. Girl ur crzy!...lol.
I worked at a job b4 tht condoned in-office relationships. These two dated, kissed, flirted and talked about their home life. He even proposed to her and she accepted of course lol. It was too weird for me...but it was okay w/ management lol.
My "Primary" and I work together and have been off and on for the entire 7 year duration, with zero drama. It started very casually and was purely physical back then. This time around we are actually "dating" as we've concluded that there has to be something that keeps us gravitating back towards each other. We'll see what happens...
Hey MayMay81,
No drama for 7yrs??!! WOW!! Lucky u! :)
Maybe there is something beyond our control that's bringing you and this person back together. It might lead to marriage ;) who knows! ;)
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